Here’s one of the most counterproductive—and, frankly, unintelligent—statements I’ve ever heard: “I don’t want to be part of the problem. I want to be …
Why Intentions Are (Even) More Important Than Goals
Quite often, doing what works is easier said than done. You’d expect that taking the most expedient, useful next step would always be the most …
Bullshit Advice— a ‘Recipe’ for Handling It
Who is the most memorable—and eminent—bullshit advice giver you’ve encountered in your life? I’ve met many, but the one who stands out is my …
How to Make ‘Different’ Your Greates Ally
When you're curious if someone's life experience holds something significant for you, one simple question can reveal a lot: “What do you do …
Are You Afraid of Saber-Tooth Tigers?
Years ago, a friend’s boyfriend—someone I had known for a while—made a comment about himself that instantly put me off: “I’m not actually afraid of …
Radical Self-Trust— Choice or Reward?
Many of the problems we face in everyday interactions can be traced back to one five-letter word: trust. Or rather, an eight-letter word: distrust. …
What Does the Path of Least Resistance Have to Do With Setting Boundaries?
I remember a conversation I had with a friend about twenty years ago. I don’t recall how it started or what we were mainly talking about, but one …
You’ve Let a Made-up Story Take Over Your Life. It Feels Real— but It’s a Clever Illustion. Here’s What You Should Do About It…
Have you ever let a made-up story take over your life? I bet you have. We all have. It’s called identity. Here’s a small piece of wisdom many …
How to Compare Yourself to Others— in a Good Way
You’ve probably been told never to compare yourself to others. I know I have. More than once. Always unsolicited. It’s good advice. But also, it’s …
Has Anyone Ever Asked You This Question about Happiness?
Has anyone ever asked you to share your happiest childhood memories? If so, I’d guess it happened in a private setting where the person felt …