Unhacking Life

How to Compare Yourself to Others— in a Good Way

You’ve probably been told never to compare yourself to others. I know I have. More than once. Always unsolicited. It’s good advice. But also, it’s …

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Comparing yourself to others can be a good thing— when it sparks possibility and fuels your drive to grow.

Has Anyone Ever Asked You This Question about Happiness?

Has anyone ever asked you to share your happiest childhood memories? If so, I’d guess it happened in a private setting where the person felt …

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Setting happiness as a goal implies you don't already have everything you need to be happy. Happiness shouldn't be seen as a goal that requires achieving - but as a state that requires choosing.

Why I Don’t Choose My Friends – and What I Do Instead

I often talk about the importance of being intentional about who we spend time with. For good reason. Too many people waste a huge part of their …

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The best friendships are transactional at the core - not in giving and taking, but in building and creating.